CumUnion Returns To Paddles

It is never my goal. However, a bonus to flashbacks of my public sex is when they say a real good "Fuck you" to a common misconception based on either ethnicity-based machismo, porn, or a combination of the 2.

And I had the opportunity when I took advantage of CumUnion's return to Paddles NYC.

Paddles NYC had closed for a bit as the Omicron variant of COVID surged in NYC. So during that time, CumUnion was being held at Rainbow Playground in Queens. I never attended because the nights it was happening was a night I had to be at work, and by the time I got off work, there would probably only be an hour left to the party, if that. So CumUnion's return to a day I'm off work and a closer venue was most welcome. 

As I wandered to take in the energy of the room, I saw this cute Latino in a jockstrap. He was short and slim. Shorter than my 5'6" self and slim enough to some to be considered a twink. I saw him and numerous guys approach him to be their top. One such scenario had at least 5 guys who looked my age and older surrounding him. It was real creepy and predatory to me. It was a scene I couldn't watch. I know one of the guys swooped in like a vulture to rim him, but if any of those guys actually led to full-on sex, I have no idea.

As I said before, I thought he was cute. However, as I said often of myself even in a tweet, I am an exhibitionist but quite shy socially. So if anything was going to happen, he would likely have to make the first move. Even more so seeing that he was approached so often that I automatically wanted to give him space to collect himself. That also gave me time to get up the nerve to where I might actually make the first move.

Well, after I last saw him, he came over to the dark backroom. I was standing in front a medical table straight to the back. That made him enter on my left. He then crossed pass me and stopped a few feet to my right. It was so dark where he was standing that while I thought he was looking at me, I wasn't sure. Wherever he was looking, he was stroking himself in his jockstrap. Seeing that made me stroke myself. Still seeming to look at me, he started to step back. Just in case that was for me, I started to up my game in showing interest by no longer looking away. However, I didn't move. I realized I was his point of interest when he stopped moving back then came forward. He came forward to where there was enough light to see there was no doubt he was looking at me and I at him. Then I started to slowly step towards him. That little step from me made him go full on towards me. We started stroking each other. He started at my chest and I at his. Then to my surprise, his strokes quickly went down to my ass.

Considering how he was pursued as a bottom so often earlier this was a shock. After so many guys wanting me to top, I've been lately getting approached to be a bottom, which as I stated in my Audio Fuck Profile, I more so prefer in my versatility. So he was quite welcome if that was where he was going. I love playing with a hot guy's cock big or small, soft or hard. So I enjoyed playing with his which was semi-erect when he started touching my ass, but got rock hard the more I stroked him.

He took me over to the side of the room. Wanting me to kneel on the bench so he could rim me. I loved his tongue. It made me super hungry for his cock. Even though I had no idea if actually fucking my ass was in his plans. Then it became official. He tried entering me. That's when I went for the lube in my sock. Putting some on my hole and some on his dick.

As he entered me, the connection between us made my hole do just as a past playmate said, "opens all hungry, then grabs like a vice". Because I wanted his cock so bad. So once inside me, that grip was my body's way of saying "Thank you".

Even though I outdid him in height and weight, his essence made his pounding feel taller and heavier. Exemplifying my poem "My Submission Has The Floor". Because his leans on my back as he thrusted in and out felt like they were covering me even though I know they didn't.

I loved every moans and breath on my neck and ear. Then he came. He slowly slipped his cock out of me, and I could feel my hole once wet solely from lube was now additionally wet from the cum he dragged out on the tip of his sweet dick.

I have said before that the way I can make so many assessments of what guys are doing while I'm having sex is that while in the moment, my conscious mind is solely into the person(s) I'm with. However, my subconscious mind is watching all that is going on with those outside of us. And hindsight being 20/20 tells me all that my subconscious took in.

With that said, one of the things my subconscious took in while bottoming for that sexy Latino was that guys were gathering around to watch. Why is this surprising? Because the gay community has come to only see that the only time a Black man like myself is worth watching have sex is when he is topping a non-Black person. Not bottoming. In fact, my 1st TikTok video was me complaining about how at another sex party, the room full of mostly white males ignored me being topped by an Asian male. But they started forming a football huddle around him when he topped a Latino, and around me when I topped a light-skinned Latino.

So this crowd forming gave me the impression that something might be changing for the better. Better as to how the role gay black males play with non-blacks not being as limited. Perhaps we are starting to be seen as having sex appeal as a bottom, as we have as a top. But that is just one place. It will take the exploration of others to know for sure.

Besides the older guys swarming my playmate and an instance while topping my playmate of a guy's interrupting hands inspiring a tweet, my return to CumUnion at Paddles NYC was quite satisfying. Because like the age-old saying goes...it's not about quantity, but quality. And that includes playmates at a sex party.

Fansite Models, Lessen Your Narcissism...PRIORITIZE

There have been many guys that I've hooked up with at sex parties and backrooms with whom the sex was so epic that when I discovered they had an OnlyFans, JustForFans, or the like that I was ready to share our sexual chemistry with the world. Not out of a desperation for validation. Just simply to celebrate our exhibitionist spirits. However, no such video has transpired since the advent of such fansites. Because when I get a look from the clips on their Twitter or try a discounted subscription, I often end up disappointed.

For what I wind up seeing is the guy I was in such lust with displaying a desperation for validation by looking into the camera. Once I see that, I scrap any plans to suggest an on-camera hook-up. If we ever fuck again, it is simply by the same chance encounters we initially met. Sex parties and bar backrooms.

If your hole is pleasing a guy's cock, or if your 6", 7", 8" or more inches of dick is in one's mouth, ass, or pussy, that person has no business looking into the eye of one of a smartphone's cameras to get the approval of some socially inept voyeurs. Making sure to get the right angle so some unseen voyeur shows approval via a subscription the following month. For besides it being disrespectful to their sex partner(s), it also doesn't speak well of how much respect you have for yourself.

Countering this rabid narcissism is why I wrote "PRIORITIZE". And I know from what I speak. Because to those who might recall my homemade videos featuring a playmate (when XTube was functioning), NONE of those videos showed me looking into the camera. Me and my playmate turned on the camera, and did whatever position in whatever angle suited us. Never looking at the camera. For the sex we were having was just like a post from my shadow-banned Instagram that says - "...Me and my playmate(s) got in the mood to fuck, and you just happened to be there." The camera was just a prop in the back of our minds It was not the target audience.

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Proof of this is in one such video I saved and uploaded to my OnlyFans. 

In any case, we need to get back to those days.

Pleasure Product Review: Feel Me Strokers (Leigh Raven & September Reign)

The folks at Kiiroo were kind enough to give me, not 1, but 2 of their latest FeelMe strokers to test. One of Leigh Raven and the other of September Reign.

There really is no contest between these 2 sleeves. They both offer amazing pleasure, but by different means.

For as seen in the above photo, both contain textures that are hits within male strokers. Such as the twists and rings in the Leigh Raven FeelMe stroker. Making it focus more on spots of widening and thinning within the sleeve's plus subtle textures.

Meanwhile, you can see that the sleeve of the September Reign FeelMe stroker focuses more heavily on varying textures. Textures that are also hits within the male strokers. Such as in addition to the all-time favorite ring texture, there is also a section within the sleeve of a netted texture.

The differences in widening and textures are more so felt on the head of the penis on longer strokes. Be they done by the Keon or by the user's hand. Regardless of how you use it, while all bodies are different, I doubt that you will be disappointed with the outcome.

With that said, I most definitely recommend either or both of these strokers. Get just one because the differences described, or both to change up sensations when using a Kiiroo Keon or manual use.

Whatever you decide, enjoy it. Because as I always say, YOUR BODY, YOUR CALL. 👍😊 

Pleasure Product Review: Viceroy Agility Probe Prostate Massager

When the Viceroy Agility Probe prostate massager by Cal Exotics came into the sex shop that I work at, the staff was given no information about it. It piqued my interest by me finally having some down time, touring the store, and stopped there at the Agility Probe to investigate it further.

When I started reading the box, a trait that really caught my eye was seeing the box say that the Agility Probe was bendable. I was wondering how bendable it was compared to the only other non-vibrating prostate massagers I play with, the Helix Syn by Aneros, which is good for a beginner. Not only is the Viceroy bendable, but it actually holds a pose.

This is good because bodies are shaped differently outside and inside. Making the Agility Probe easy to adjust to one's individual fit.

Back to the Helix Syn for a moment, I primarily used that prostate massager when I was en route to a sex party or hook-up. Doing the Kegels that made it massage my prostate making me eager to bottom, and come closer to a physical orgasm by way of anal penetration during intercourse. Instead of just a mental orgasm and maybe penile stimulation. With that said, I was looking forward to the Agility Probe because not only does the size of the end bulb makes it good for more intermediate anal play and beyond, but it is good to masturbate with. Such as while watching porn. By it being closer to the size of the average penis, one can more realistically imagine themselves with the person penetrating on-screen.

The Agility Probe is made of high-quality silicone so it does not hold bacteria and can be easily cleaned with any body-safe soap or toy cleaner. Plus its matte finish makes it easy entry once lubricated.

Speaking of lubricants, water-based is most recommended. You can use oil-based, but water-based is the first choice to avoid staining.

NOTE: SILICONE LUBE IS AN ABSOLUTE NO-NO! While silicone is the go-to lube for anal sex, it should only be used for just that - sex. Not for playing with pleasure products made solely or partially of silicone.

In short, the Viceroy Agility Probe is a prostate massager that can quite easily give the reputation of Aneros' massagers a run for their money. Because being more seasoned at anal play, the size and bendability of the Agility Probe has definitely made my Helix Syn my 2nd favorite prostate massager now.

Why Am Not A Slut, But a S.L.U.T.?

I have always had a love/hate relationship with the word "slut". A former bartender at the NYC gay bar, The Cock used to call me "Slut-asaurus Rex". Most of me loved it. Another part of me hated it.

While the word-perv that I am loves what the word "slut" is about, I think the part of it riddled with disdain is from the many self-destructive behaviors displayed in porn from all genders and that I have seen in sexually permissive spaces with my own eyes from gay males who can be defined by the word.

Such as how sluts choose quantity over quality. Meanwhile, while I love having my body entertain and be entertained by the beauty of the male form, and there are so many beautiful men to entertain, I put quality first. Quality by way of a spiritual connection through the eyes, and not just sight of the body, or in the case of many gay sluts I have seen, feel of any body. Hence why I can go to a sex party for 3+ hours and have one great 5-minute fuck to call the night great. Meanwhile, to those who are the more common definition of "slut", one fuck (no matter how good the sex was) is a lousy night.

This is why in the poem I said the lines:

So I call myself that standing for something 

That something is not the word you know 

For those who define as the word 

In some ways, live by a different code

For that reason, I wanted to come up with a definition for "slut" that more so suited me. Then it came to me. Instead of trying to use the word, why don't I make the letters that spell the word mean something. Much like Folsom Street East did a few years ago when they started calling the event S.L.U.T.S., an acronym for Sex, Love, Unity, Trust, and Safety.

Now, I have come up with my own acronym. With that said, I'm all about sharing it and maybe even starting a movement with it. For I know a number of people whose sexuality is much like mine. They have the lust to have sex with every adult human of their preferred gender with a pulse, but won't because they crave a connection besides just a pretty face, even in that fleeting moment.

So which are you? Are you a slut? Or are you a S.L.U.T.?

No Pull-Outs, No Push-Outs

Funny how this poem all started because after writing the article for Thotyssey about how guys pulling out when they ejaculate takes away from the sex, I couldn't get the thought out of my head of trying to write a poem to make pulling out less appealing. In the process of writing it, coming across a bunch of videos showing push-outs also made me need to address that in the poem as well.

I wanted to be stern about my position on both, yet continue my poetry mission of making dirty talk free of shame, and sexier as it aided in one being honest about their feelings on pulling out and pushing out.

In the poem, I believe I said all I needed to say about why pulling out is counter productive. However, when it comes to the pushing out of cum, you might have noticed that I did not say too much for my position on pushing out. In fact, I probably more so extended my argument against pulling out. Hindsight being 20/20, I realize that being detailed and honest about my feelings on that would have likely lessened the immediate post-reading sex session I want to inspire with the poem.

Such as how when a guy shoots his load into your ass, then it comes out naturally over time with no real effort from you, cum in the butt then is a beautiful anal sex by-product. However, a conscious and forceful push-out of cum makes cum an anal excrement to me. Thereby making a push-out just a step below scat, which I am not a fan of at all. 

There was no way to make that sexy.

For I want this poem to inspire a fuck session in which right after reading, a couple fucks. As the top pounds away at his bottom or the bottom rides the top, they emphatically agree that the top is going to shoot his raw load in the bottom's ass, and the bottom is going to let time (not his mind) be what tells his body to le the load go.

With that said, I hope this poem has either done so for you already, or it will in due time.

Pleasure Product Review: Pulse Solo Interactive

It appears Kiiroo has made another great joint venture with their interactive technology by pairing with Hot Octopuss to give us the male interactive toy, Pulse Solo Interactive.

The Pulse by Hot Octopuss has been around for a few years now. I have never owned one, so Kiiroo sending me this new product popped my Pulse cherry. Not my Hot Octopuss cherry because if you've followed me long enough, I did a Nude Dude Review featuring Hot Octopuss' Atom/Plus and made a video with their Amo. With that said, I know Hot Octopuss makes good products. I just never experienced their PulsePlate™ feature for the penis before.

Let's start with just the PulsePlate™. That was awesome. I greatly enjoyed going through the 6 vibration patterns. Sometimes stroking so the PulsePlate™ vibrates along the shaft as well as the frenulum (under-head of the penis). Others times I held it still to let it solely hit the frenulum, which could at times bring me near climax like the classic Magic Wand can against that area. Yes, the vibration hits that strongly. And the reason that plate hits just as great as a Magic Wand (which is much larger) is because the plate is just the right size to let the Pulse Solo Interactive actually cup the frenulum. Much like one's tongue does the penis when giving great oral sex. It's the same trick, but with electronically-created vibration.

The interactive part of the Pulse Solo Interactive is what I couldn't wait to see. For I've experienced the interactive stroking from Kiiroo toys and vibration from the Titan. But I was not prepared for how such videos connected via the FeelConnect app would relate to the pulsing of the Pulse Solo Interactive.

I LOVED IT!

The videos on my list at FeelXVideos.com that worked with the Pulse Solo Interactive had vibration that pulled me in so much that I almost orgasmed before getting to the end of a scene. In fact, there's only 1 movie so far that I have sat through, and there is video evidence of that test. 

I used it in all ways promoted in the press release. Again, not stroking with it, but also holding it in place, and not moving. Just letting the PulsePlate™'s taps on my frenulum be in sync with the video and letting that get me to orgasm. It had such moments of intensity that I had times in which I had to pull out of the Pulse Solo Interactive because I wanted to be orgasm with end of the scene.

I also saw it interact with my strokers Kiiroo's Onyx+ and Titan. Stroking the sensors on these 2 toys reacted well with the Pulse Solo Interactive. With that being the case, I think it's safe to conclude that it would do the same with the sensors in other Kiiroo-powered toys like the Pearl.

The Pulse Interactive is waterproof. So your Guybrator fun can also be had in the shower.

It comes with a USB charging cord and can be charged via any USB port. Once plugged in, it takes about 3 hours to fully charge and works for about 1 hour after.

The body-touching part of it are made of silicone, while the rest is made of ABS plastic. Since silicone is non-porous and won't hold bacteria, you can easily clean it with any body-safe soap or toy cleaner with no worries after.

Its compact size and accompanying pouch makes it easy to travel with. So while on the road, you can enjoy either its 6 vibration patterns, or (via the FeelConnect app) interact with 2D and VR videos and/or a partner with a matching toy.

All of these features work so well that I highly recommend Hot Octopuss' Pulse Interactive powered by Kiiroo.